Two MASSIVE jobs + I'm here to tell you all about my experience with them and how they overlapped for me.
I want to say ahead of time that this is purely my experience + I wanted to write this primarily to help other people that are curious how this might possibly/will affect their business owner life (since before this, our business was our baby).
Let's talk the first trimester. This is important to me to bring up because I feel like your first tri can go one of two ways. You either feel great + can feel the "glow" OR you'll be like me where you can't run to the toilet fast enough. I had to cancel/reschedule SO many shoots in my first tri because I could barely drive 10 minutes in my car without having to sniff peppermint essential oils to prevent my nausea (and sometime that wouldn't even work). This was HARD because not only did I physically feel terrible, but some (mostly new) clients weren't very understanding. SHOUTOUT to my returning + new clients that were more than amazing to me + so understanding because there were way more of you than not.
I eventually got to the point where I realized how important my health should be to me above my work. If you're a business owner, you know a lot of times this can come second to your business.
I eventually started feeling better around March, which was in perfect timing for busy season. I was able to work quite a bit with the occasional out-of-breath moments and snack breaks. LOTS of snack breaks. Those Sargento snack packs will save your life 9 times out of 10. Come end of March, wedding season officially began for me. I immediately started to realize the weight that my body was now carrying that it wasn't used to before and was sore from simply just walking around all day at a one-spot venue. WATER was my best friend and so were the amazing brides that were nothing but catering to me when all I wanted to do was cater to them.
Let me tell you - my 2022 prime-pregnancy brides (months 5-7 of pregnancy) were THE BEST that there is. I don't think I had a single wedding where I felt completely exhausted because I didn't have the chance to relax. My brides MADE SURE I had time. Even though that isn't in their job title on their wedding day, it was appreciated much more than I can even say because I'm 100% the person that will forget to take breaks on wedding days.
I had a slap-in-the-face moment after a wedding that I shot at about 6 months pregnant. I felt fine during the entire wedding day. Feet were a little sore but when were they not. Legs were a little sore but when were they not. I had taken (what I thought) enough breaks throughout the day + it was a pretty chill wedding. When I got home I felt exhausted as always and went to bed after my typical nightly routine. Everything in my head was fine. Then BOOM. The next morning I woke up feeling TERRIBLY sick + throughout the day it got worse. At around 5pm I started having pains in my abdomen (what I didn't know were Braxton Hicks). My husband immediately called the Labor + Delivery Unit at our hospital and they prompted us to come in if the pain lasted for more than an hour.
We went. Turns out I had Cov** and was severely dehydrated which caused my Braxton Hicks to start. They (kindly) made me drink jugs of water until they eventually went away and they sent us home. I remember my husband telling me on the way home that this is something we need to pay every ounce of attention to. It's real. I'm carrying + taking care of a baby and I needed to treat my body as so. From then on I drank an excessive amount of water on a daily basis and texted all of my up-coming brides (who were all so sweet + understanding) and told them I would need to take frequent breaks throughout the day.
I stopped working at the beginning of August and was due mid September. At first, I thought this was really dramatic of me because some people work up until the week before their due-date. But I reassured myself that this was ultimately the best decision for myself and our baby given that my OB had already given me the "take-it-easy" convo (which I appreciated).
I ended up feeling so thankful that I made that decision because about a week or two into August I started having STRONG everything. Just strong everything. Strong pains, extremely uncomfortable and exhausted. There was no way I would've been able to stand and hold my camera for an hour. My OB told me that these symptoms were all that of someone that was due in a few days....and I had a few weeks left. Needless to say I was ready to get her out - and felt like I had been pregnant for a whole decade waiting to meet this precious angel that we made.
I had her two and a half weeks early at the end of August to our healthy little babe. I still can't believe I did THAT.
Moral of the story, if you or someone you know is expecting + is a business owner (or even not a business owner), remind them of what they're doing. Creating a HUMAN. We get so caught up in this need-to-hustle-no-matter-what lifestyle and it's honestly so damaging. Pregnancy takes a huge tole on your body - take care of yourself 🖤